The New Years Resolution
It’s that time of the year again: New Years – The Resolution Season. Yes, it is this time every year when people begin to take stock of the past year of their lives, and dissect the things that happened to them and wish for things to be different next year. Soon, millions of men worldwide will be wishing they were 15lbs lighter, $10,000 richer and vowing to make it happen in the coming year. Their approach? The New Years Resolution. Or – Trying the same old things again, and expecting a different outcome this time.
I don’t know when New Years resolutions became vogue, but they have been around for as long as I have, and I don’t see them going anywhere anytime soon. I’m going to make it really easy for you this year. There is no magic resolution, no wonder pill or special book to make your resolutions come true. No, the resolution only works out if people apply the same logic that a young Luke Skywalker had to learn early in his career. “Do or do not. There is no try.” As a guy who has made a few resolutions in his time, and also spent substantial time reading self-help books and listening to tapes, I can tell you that this is the basic approach taken by the vast majority of the self-help gurus. And in fact, it is common sense. You don’t accomplish anything by simply trying to do something – you have to actually do it!
Why the vast failures in resolutions? I think it’s because as a society we spend so much time bullshitting each other, that we have started doing it to ourselves. “Some people are fat, but not me. I’m big boned.” ” I have an overactive thyroid.” ” My whole family is tubby, so it must be genetic.”
Let me cut through the bull for you. You are fat because you eat too much and don’t do enough exercise. That’s it.
Need to save money? STOP SPENDING IT ON TAKEOUT!
Have a feeling that you look like a slob? YOU DO! Learn how to iron your shirt!
Want to read more? You have to actually visit a bookstore first.
Hey, nobody is perfect, but in order to affect change, you first have to address the real problem. Take a good look at yourself, evaluate your problem realistically, and then take action. This year, you have no excuse for your resolution to fail. Remember this – the point when you want to give up, the day you stop going to the gym – that is the point of your failure. Recognize it, and then don’t quit. That’s the real secret to making resolutions come true.